For queer and allied couples planning a honeymoon
Know you’ll be welcome before you book the honeymoon
If you’ve just gotten married, or you’re about to, you’re probably already picturing the honeymoon. Where to go is the fun question. The harder one is whether the hotel, the cruise line or the guide who meets you at the airport will actually be good to the two of you, and not just say they will. My wife and I got married in August 2026, and we know that search for acceptance well.
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Before we hired anyone for the wedding, we wanted to know how they’d treat the two of us, so we asked each of them directly. We never made it a rule that they had to be queer, but most of them turned out to be, and that helped us know they were accepting. What we were searching for was acceptance, and what we got was friends.
The wedding was on San Juan Island with forty-six people, and almost all of them flew in from Massachusetts, across Canada, Texas and New Mexico before catching the ferry out. It was beautiful, absolutely beautiful.
We haven’t taken our honeymoon yet. Italy and Greece is the dream we’re saving up for (my wife has been to both and I’ve never been to either), and we’ll book it ourselves. In the meantime I book honeymoons for other queer couples as a travel advisor, and I check them the same way we checked our wedding vendors.
Checking a place
How do you know a place is actually queer-friendly?
Every destination comes down to three questions: is the whole country safe, is part of it safe, and can I be myself with my wife there, or do I have to act differently? Getting to those answers means firsthand accounts, research and the fine print. It’s a lot of reading the nitty-gritty details, from the laws to how religious a country is to what queer travelers say on Reddit and other review sites.
Fiji is a good example. Same-sex relationships have been legal there since 2010, but when I researched it, I found that the country is very religious and conservative. The resorts are welcoming. Outside them, people generally aren’t as accepting, so it’s hard to go outside the resorts.
Then I check the hotel or the ship itself. I ask them outright how they treat their queer travelers and whether they treat them the same as everyone else. If I can’t get a straight answer, or the answer feels like a platitude, that tells me something too.
How it works
What planning a honeymoon with me looks like
It starts with a complimentary fifteen-minute call, with nothing to prepare, so we can find out whether I’m the right person for what you have in mind. If we go ahead, I send you a set of questions and then we have a longer conversation, about forty-five minutes. The planning investment is agreed before I start any work, so it never comes as a surprise. Once your honeymoon is booked, you’ll hear from me by email before you leave, when you get home, and once more after that to follow up.
Advice
What I’d tell a couple who just got engaged
Oh my god, enjoy it. But start planning early, and if the two of you disagree about what the whole day looks like, get a planner. Seriously, even a day-of coordinator makes the difference. Getting a planner was a game changer for us, because we both wanted to control every detail and we had different visions.
A honeymoon works the same way. Start early, and if you each have a different trip in your head, that’s when it helps to have someone in the middle.
Questions
Questions couples ask
Is a honeymoon travel agent free?
Not completely, and I’d rather be upfront about it. The hotels, resorts and cruise lines pay a commission on what I book, and that covers the booking itself. My planning investment pays for the work of putting the trip together, and for a couple it runs from $250 to $750 depending on how many places you’re going and how custom the trip is. It’s separate from the cost of the trip, paid before I start and non-refundable.
When should we book our honeymoon?
It depends entirely on when you’re taking your honeymoon. If you take the traditional route and leave right after the ceremony and reception, you need to plan it alongside your wedding. If you’re going months later, you have more wiggle room to start planning later. Either way, I’d start at least a year before you travel so you can get what you want.
Do you only plan honeymoons for queer couples?
No. I book for queer and allied travelers, and the way I check a destination works for any couple who wants to know how they’ll be treated when they get there.
Next
Start with a call
When you’re ready to start on the honeymoon, the first step is that free fifteen-minute call.
You don’t need to have anything figured out yet.